It can be hard to believe the positive sentiments behind words when it’s your hurt child that’s saying them, Carol Diefenbacher says.
In 2000, her son Brandon Wagner was the only survivor of a car crash that left him paralyzed.
“Brandon said after his accident, ‘You know mom, you’ve always taught us that everything in life happens for a reason,’ ” Diefenbacher recalled. “I felt like I had just been punched in the stomach.”
Nothing else really matters right now. I quit my job … to train for London.
“Nothing else really matters right now,” said Wagner, who wears 13 on the national team. “I quit my job … to train for London.
“All the hard work is really starting now.”
Over the next five months, Wagner, who trains at Variety Village Sports Training and Fitness Centre in Scarborough, said he will double his efforts to be in competitive shape. He’s in the gym five to six times a week, on and off the court, paying particular attention to speed, quickness and agility, he said.
Wagner missed out on a national team spot four years ago.
“In 2008, I came up short,” he said. “So it was exciting, really emotional to make the  team.”
After the crash that left him paralyzed, Wagner focused his energies on basketball with the encouragement of a coach in his hometown of Burlington, Ont. His commitment to the sport allowed him to play and study at the University of Illinois, where he was named student-athlete of the year in 2009.
“He’s an absolute driven soul,” Diefenbacher said, “incredibly committed to training.”
Canada is the reigning Paralympic silver medallist in men’s wheelchair basketball. In 2000 and 2004, Canada won gold.
This year, the field is full of strong competition and Canada has “as good a chance as any to win,” Wagner said. But, he added, his intention is to help bring gold home.
“Wheelchair basketball opened a lot of doors for me,” Wagner said. “If I was able-bodied, I would never have got this far.”